Guest Blogger Justin Whitfield

Today on the purple crushed velvet couch my special guest is c0-author with Taylor Cole of ‘Take It Off – The Naked Truth About Male Strippers.’

I asked Justin for an author photo and this is what he sent. Now, deep breath ladies.

I believe Justin is the guy in the jeans.

Justin Whitfield has a diverse background, he has graduated from the University of Texas with a Bachelor’s in Economics & Finance. He holds a former title of Mr. All-Natural Southwest U.S.A. and is a fitness model with numerous magazines. Justin is also an entrepreneur; owning his own sports bar in Houston called “The End Zone”. He has worked at male review clubs all over the U.S., in a span of twenty years and he is currently a Caveman model for Ellora’s Cave.

Thank you, Justin,  for graciously agreeing to be our guest on Love, Lust and Laptops.

Lillian:  I’ve read, “Take it Off” that you co-authored with Taylor Cole. I did wonder if you would be shy about talking about your life as a male stripper but I am going to guess not after the stories you’ve shared with your readers. I couldn’t put the damn thing down. It certainly is a very funny and educational read. What made you decide to write it, and do you have any plans for a sequel?

 Justin: I had started dancing at a club in Arlington, Tx. For about 3-4 months. I knew Taylor from the gym. I helped him get hired at the club. We both defected to the Dallas club because it was much busier and the better guys worked there. After a few years, I got divorced and decide to move to Houston and dance. Taylor stayed in Dallas. Every once in a while, we would meet up for roadshows and share our stories. We knew that we had a book but just needed a publisher.

We are about to turn in our sequel. Probably within a week. Since we covered all the informative part about how, why and what it takes in the first book. We go straight to the funny mishaps, too damn old jokes and sexcapades.

Lillian: I’m in danger of revealing way too much about myself but I have never seen a Male Stripper, other than my husband when he wants to entertain me. He has a certain rhythm. What he lacks in ability he makes up for with enthusiasm. Fortunately, I have a wonderful imagination. So, in your book you talk about different sorts of clients. How did you deal with a nervous first timer?

Justin: I once danced for a girl who was shaking so badly, it was reminiscent of seeing a kid meet Michael Jackson for the first time. It was too much but she really couldn’t stop shaking. Mostly, though, a nervous newbie is common and you just have  to make a lot of eye contact, smile and seem very down to earth. Take charge, of course. By that, I mean, lead her through the whole dance. Instruct her hands as to what they are allowed to touch. The chest and hips are always allowed to be touched. Most important part, make sure she smiles.

Lillian:  As a woman I am not inclined to find a strange man getting naked particularly titillating unless I have some kind of connection and feel like the performance is just for me. How do you make what you do seem more than just another night taking your clothes off for a bunch of strangers? How do you make it special?

Justin: We make what we do special because of the time and effort we put into our acts, bodies and performance. Women are definitely into their minds more than men. Eye contact is very important. It can make a woman feel special and help to break down that wall women tend to have. Unfortunately, some nights, we are just going through the motions.

Lillian: What attracted you to stripping? And how did you cope with first time nerves? I know if I was getting naked in front of a room of men I would probably throw up, but then they would probably do the same.

Justin: I wanted to be a stripper because I knew I was too shy and that if I stayed shy, I would miss out on so much. The first time I got on stage to tryout, I was 19 and had only been with one girl. First time nerves were pretty bad but I wanted to do it even more than I was worried about looking stupid. I got light headed the first time up and remember Metallica “enter sandman” come on and I started banging my head and made it through.

Lillian:  I hide behind a pen name and only share my real identity with a select group of people.  My Mother- in –law has no idea who the erotic author who keeps hitting on her son on Facebook really is. You don’t seem to be shy about what you did for a living but have you ever had to hide it and how did you do that when anyone could walk into the club and see you?

Justin: When I retired at 32, I opened my bar The End Zone Sports Bar and Grill. I really didn’t tell anyone what I did but this last year with news stories on us, our book, newspaper feature, CNN interview and some other stuff, people now know and I learned how to embrace what I did. I can hold my head up high because I was able to make it a career and move on to much better things. I’ve lived a life worth living and I believe everyone should be able to say the same.

Lillian:  I love how you give advice about diet and exercise, I am sure my personal trainer does too, but the bit I thought was gold was advice on how to attract the attention of a male stripper. No, I am not going to ask if you’re gay.  See I was paying attention. However, you do say don’t be a stalker. I can imagine that for some people the show seems like reality and stalking could be a very real problem. Have you ever been in a situation that made you feel like you were in danger?

Justin: I’ve never been in a situation where I felt in danger. Stalkers do exist. I’ve seen girls get the guys name or moniker tattooed on her. Tell all the other girls she slept with him. Etc…. Stuff like that. Marking of territory stuff.

Lillian: On a similar theme, I am sure sometimes when you are in the audience table and lap dancing some women get too carried away and pull your pants down. What do you do in that situation?

Justin: I’ve been exposed a few times but usually on main stage when I’m on my knee trying to get a tip. I hate it and grab the girls hand in a firm manner and say, “act like a lady!” Once, I had my bottoms cut off on the sides because the girl thought it would be funny. Luckily, I grabbed Them before they fell of.

Lillian: Did it ever become just a job where you got up and said, ‘I suppose I have to go to work and get naked.’ Like I do every Monday. The going to work bit, not the getting naked. There isn’t a big market for naked accountants in Australia.  If it did feel like just a job how did you get your spark back?

Justin: It becomes old to every dancer after time. At that point, we have to change something up in our act or maybe take a few weeks off. It can be mentally draining as well.

Lillian:  This is the question we all want to ask but we are too afraid to so on behalf of all the ladies who want to know, how do you stop yourself getting, I think someone called it happy, but I think she means aroused? And if you do get aroused what the hell do you do because it must stand out like dog balls.

Justin: I mention the aroused part in the next book. It can happen but not usually. You just don’t get aroused while working.

Lillian: You do know I will have to buy the next book now, right? Finally, what was the best and worst thing about being a stripper and now that you have hung up your G-string what do you miss about it?

Justin:  I technically haven’t hung my g string up. I no longer work at the club but book roadshows at big clubs and casinos a few times per year. It gives me my “fix”. It also helps me stay motivated to stay in shape. I’ve been lucky because dancing has given so very much. I met my wife on main stage. My bar was paid for from saving my tips over the years. I have a second book about to come out. I have a degree in economics but dancing has done way more for me in the real world.

When I’m too old to dance, I’ll miss the roar of the girls when I do my act, the camaraderie of the guys and the traveling.

 

Ever wonder what goes on behind the scenes in a male strip club? Are those guys gay? How do they stay so ripped? Do they stuff their trunks? How did they get into such a business? How much money do they make? Do they have wild sex every night?

This book takes you backstage and into the lives of two successful male strippers over a span of twenty years in the business. From their rookie days to their wild sexcapades and practical jokes, Take It Off! is a laugh-filled, action-packed joyride.

Justin Whitfield and Taylor Cole are the stage names of male exotic dancers who have performed for women in Europe, the Caribbean, South America and Canada, as well as at various casinos, on cruise ships and in hundreds of clubs across the United States. Both have been featured on television and radio, as well as in newspapers, calendars and magazines. Both are also official Ellora’s Caveman cover models.

If you want to know more you can buy the book at. Go on, you won’t be disappointed!

Ellora’s Cave

And at Amazon

14 thoughts on “Guest Blogger Justin Whitfield

  1. Thanks, Justin for sharing your experiences with us. I would be the nervous and very shaky lady you mentioned. However, I must add “attend a male stripper show” to my 2013 New Year’s resolutions — it is something I have never experienced yet. 🙂 Anyone want to go with me?

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    • Moni, I’ve been to a total of 2. Let me tell ya…my crazy friends waved money over my head to get a stripper to come give me a lap dance. The whole time I’m trying to sink through my chair in embarrassment and the stripper is telling me “Relax, honey. I’m not going to bite!” I’m sure my face was as red as his g-string! But that experience was much better than what the female stripper did to me…..

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    • Okay, you and me, Vanessa, next romance con we attend at the same time, we’ll find a male stripper bar and go. It will be research. If Robin is there, she can go with us and since she is a veteran she can explain the ropes and tell us what to watch out for — but if she pulls out money and waves it over my head, she had better be offering to pay for drinks. LOL

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  2. Reblogged this on Sofia Grey and commented:
    Oh my…… I love it when an author does some real research for their novel and I guess Lillian Grant is a perfectionist. She had to… gulp… research male strippers…. * fans myself * Lucky Lillian!!!

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  3. Thanks Justin. Having you on the couch was an honor. I have seeing a male stripper on my bucket list, although I am sure it will freak me right out 🙂 Maybe we should make it an LL&L day trip LOL

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  4. Lillian, I loved your questions. You are such a hoot. Is Michael “guilty” of any of the shenanigans found in Justin’s book?
    Justin, can’t wait to read your book and it sounds like the sequel will be even better. Thanks for taking the time to visit with Lillian.

    Lillian, Moni & Vanessa, you’ve got to see a male strip show at least once in your life. It is an experience unlike any other. It is nice to sit back… okay not so much sitting still, but ya know what I mean…and just enjoy the ripped bodies dancing. And the really good ones…if you are close enough to the front…can really make you feel like they are dancing just for you. Definitely drool worthy. And since you are all romance writers, hey, maybe it is a tax deductible expense because it’s research!

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